Win + Win = Double Win

It was over 20 years ago, when I opened my first martial arts school, that I truly began to understand  the role of owning and operating a small business.

When you enter the world of business you come to realize that a lot of business is based on greed and the bottom line mentality.  This, unfortunately, has contributed to the global financial melt down that we just experienced. The small companies that had a profit in 2009 utilize the win/win principles to create success.

These are some common sayings that are known to many cultures: “Friendship is friendship and business is business” “We only do business with friends” The first time someone said to me: “Friendship is friendship and business is business” I was truly upset by the statement and felt that this person was telling me that we weren’t friends and that we would never be friends and to watch out because I may be ripped off.   I smiled as I remembered a saying that I used to hear from my mother: “We only do business with friends.”   I thanked the person and moved on and decided from that day onwards I would only do business with my friends.

A friend is a person that I have met, or have yet to meet, who shares similar interests, beliefs and values.  Keep in mind another saying “A stranger is a friend you have not yet met.”

A common misconception about doing business with a friend or trusted advisor is that you are going to get something for nothing.  This is what I call a taker not a mutual giver. Whenever I do business with a friend I make certain that we both walk away with mutual respect for each other and our product or service.

Anybody that I do business with I treat as a friend or trusted advisor.  I have no business doing business with people I do not trust or that do not trust me.  Once you begin to create positive results in your business people will recommend you to their friends and families and you will have more work than you can handle.  The key is to ensure that you handle the workload successfully without losing the sale. I have seen too many people lose a sale because of being distracted or disorganized when meeting or contacting a potential customer that could become a raving fan.   Remember, what it comes down to is, we always do business with friends or organizations that we trust.

FRED

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Vibrational Communication Experience –                                                            “Network Your Way to Personal & Professional Success” -   Saturday February 6th and Sunday February 7th, 2010 Vancouver, BC Canada

“In shadow-boxing you practice self-expression with no inhibiting factors. You form a general, flexible mental map. There is a carry over in your muscles, nerves and brain from practice to the actual situation.” – Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz

Shadow boxing can be interpreted as “shadow boxing as applied to everyday living.” Every time I want to learn something new, I remind myself to apply the technology found in shadow boxing, or mental rehearsal (or my personal favorite, active visualization).

I’ve used it for martial arts, work, home renovation projects, skateboarding, travel, fatherhood, and generally to be a more effective and useful person in the world. Like most of this stuff, by stuff I mean martial arts, the higher principles eventually apply to our every day issues. An idea that initially allows us to progress in terms of fighting skill later can be applied with a healing focus, then you can use it for both as needed.

Michael Billings

Matching & Mirroring is an interesting learning phenomenon

that takes place from time to time with or without our conscious awareness.

The more aware we are of matching & mirroring learning strategy

the faster we can discover if we learn by one or the other or a combination of both.

While working out with a couple of my martial arts students,

I noticed matching & mirroring taking place.

As I was showing a specific martial arts technique to student A (he learns by mirroring), student B automatically positioned himself on an angle to match my movements. He knew that matching was the best way for him to learn.

Once you determine if you learn by matching, mirroring or both, then learning any physical skill will be accelerated.

In my new book “Vibrational Oneness” I discuss many different learning strategies that can be utilized in every aspect of our learning journey. – Fred Shadian

“In shadow-boxing you practice self-expression with no inhibiting factors. You form a general, flexible mental map. There is a carry over in your muscles, nerves and brain from practice to the actual situation.” -M. Maltz (via Michael Billings)

Walking the middle path between the yin/yang is where all harmonious and balanced answers are received and expressed.  This was a very powerful principle that was taught to me by Master Fook Yueng.

It is important when focusing on the holistic approach that we look at things in multiple ways.  We ask questions in multiple ways, we discover answers in multiple ways.  One of the best visual examples is the yin/yang symbol.  It is often used in traditional medicine and Tai Chi to demonstrate balance of all things.  In western culture it is referred to as yin and yang.  This creates a separation between the two.  In the Chinese culture they refer to it as the yin/yang and there is no separation between the two.

Within Yin there is Yang. Within Yang there is Yin.

Within Energy there is Structure. Within Structure there is Energy.

Within Softness there is Hardness.  Within Hardness there is Softness.

Within Leadership there is a Servant.  Within a Servant there is Leadership.

Creating Momentum in your life is a progression of movements that are created just like an ocean wave. You can become part of the flow of momentum and be caught by the wave and ride it to create the momentum that you desire in any aspect of your life.

The key to creating momentum, in reality, is to recognize the extraordinary movement in your life or in your organization and to take small steps each and every day towards your desired outcome. Determine where you are at and where you are going and stay focused, using your time and talent, until you feel totally congruent with your desire.

My martial arts instructor, Sensei David Harris, would always share with me the importance of daily activities towards a desired goal.  If, for any reason, you feel that you are at a plateau you can continue your level of progression by reading a book on the subject that you are pursuing, or you can watch a video on the related subject, maybe you can attend a seminar or you could mentally rehearse your desired outcome for your success.

It is important is to do something, regardless of how small or how large. By taking action daily you create the motion towards your desired achievement.

Stay focused on the end result, be realistic in your approach, and take a step-by-step progression that leads you to your ultimate goal.

There is a Hawaiian saying: “When the surf is high, go surfing and when the water is calm, wax your board.”

Timing is of the essence when riding the wave of momentum. If you hop on too early, you might crash. If you hop on too late, you miss the wave. By timing the wave correctly, you enjoy the ride all the way to the beach.